Reality and dream

Posted by on Jul 12, 2016 in Photos | 10 Comments

Reality and dream is something most of us face every day.For some it may be less important then for others. Some people do not feel the difference or they see that not important.

India

I was not long enough in India to understand how important is the difference between reality and dream for people there. What I have see at almost every step is the contrast between them. Indicated by every poster, paint, house or street. This reminds me my childhood.

Childhood

We had many posters, music and dreams. All those has been quite in contrast what was happening around us. I wonder, was it only because we had been younger? Was it because we lived in that particular society and political order?

To have a dream, I am sure is good thing to have. It give you something to strive for. Living without a dream feel very much as something I would call clinical death.

The Reality and a dream

10 Comments

  1. Iurie
    Tue, 12. July , 2016

    Your last phrase says it all

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  2. JPH
    Tue, 12. July , 2016

    Living without a dream feel very much as something I would call clinical death.

    Yes, I whole heartedly agree with you (and Iurie also)… I would also extend it to not only dreams / a dream, but passion too… though the two might be deemed intertwined and/or one and the same.

    The latter, the seeming lack of anything giving passion to me anymore, is something, I personally, feel leads to something even worse than “clinical death”- that of a such an overwhelming emptiness, void, deep personal psyche chasm of blackness, where death, might even seem as a warm, welcoming light within.

    Why I am doing the very ripping of shreds to anything resembling normalcy in and with my life, and today being the day I become, for the third time in my life, homeless, and embark on this completely unknown of what lays ahead, “adventure”.

    We gotta do what we can to keep alive / rediscover / find those dreams / passions of ours… or else we might as well be dead as the dead you described… because what is the point? That is what I am hoping to discover and learn.

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    • Richard Vanek
      Tue, 12. July , 2016

      I had to smile on your three comments (now deleted). They felt as lost fight with technology and ventilation of the frustration. I really, despite certain seriousness of the topic, did laughed quite a lot.

      Now to more important thing. So you homeless, you wrote. Is it by choice or is it consequence of something outside of your influence?

      What are your plans?

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  3. JPH
    Tue, 12. July , 2016

    Glad I amused you ?

    Voluntarily… What I first brought up doing a couple years back, but instead chose family and moved back to the home of my youth… Well, time to get back at it… I wrote of it a couple weeks ago, probably missed as you were galavanting around India and other parts, in your usual, envious travels (well, except for the gravely ill part in India!)… Got you covered though, reading this, as well as it’s linked footnotes, will get you well up to speed ? –

    http://bit.ly/28YOcIJ

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  4. Paul
    Tue, 12. July , 2016

    I would add curiosity to the list, in addition to passion and dreams. Or perhaps it’s more apt to say that they are all intertwined. I find that I am actively having to try to stoke my passions and curiosity these days, because without them, life is monotonous drudgery.

    JPH, I wish you the best of luck on your journey, it’s admirable.

    I find myself in a similar frame of mind these last several years and, although the changes I’m trying to make are not quite as momentous, they are significant, and all with the goal of living my life as I want, and not allowing fear to dictate my path.

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    • JPH
      Tue, 12. July , 2016

      Thank you, Paul, that is kind of you to say.

      Not so sure about the ‘admirable’ part… more desperation, if anything… ‘momentous’ out of deemed necessity…

      All the best to you

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  5. Paul
    Wed, 13. July , 2016

    JPH, some of us can never muster the necessary courage to make the changes that we know we need to make, regardless of the severity of our desperation. Huge changes such as the ones you’re undertaking require and admirable courage, and I don’t believe that your courage is cheapened because it’s prompted by feelings of desperation! If you`re scared shitless and doing it anyway, that`s courageous and admirable!

    I believe there are a whole lot of desperately unhappy people without the courage to change, and often without the self-awareness to realise how much, for their own humanity, they need to.

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    • Richard Vanek
      Wed, 13. July , 2016

      I like to join Paul in saying that I surely admire your courage. I have read yesterday your post and two linked from them. For me to make a change if such a change effects only myself is (was) not that much difficult. It is other story if your change will change life of people depending on you.
      Now the question for such a person would be, is it better to (as Jeff put it in one of his posts) selfishly abandoning them or change your view on the whole life thing in your mind and be happy where you are and enjoy the ride?

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      • JPH
        Wed, 13. July , 2016

        And yes, Richard, I’ve tended to recognize that the fact that I am still single, allows for my nomadic ways… And/or vice versa – my nomadic ways not allowing me to be anything but single, as am never around enough…

        Want to hear something funny? When I was in my early twenties, a little before that left half image of myself in that Journal entry o’ mine (by then, the notion was just starting to seep in that I most likely was gonna spend the rest of my days alone and single)… But, prior to then, I saw my 20’s as being this “me” decade where I would do all the things I wanted, writing, filmmaking, traveling… So, that by the time I hit my 30’s, I would then settle down and the rest of my days spent having and raising a family. Honestly in my teens, up to that point, I really thought my calling was to be a husband and a father, so strongly paternal was I.

        A quarter century later, I think my younger self would be aghast at my being this still single man, still pretty much in the same square one of trying to figure things out as he was… Unimaginable would my life now be to him.

        Point being, I would be completely unrecognizable if I would have had the fortune that you have, and found that woman to share this life with, raise a family with… Anything and everything that is my life now, wouldn’t even exist, because my world would be them, revolving around them. So, do appreciate how you being in that situation does limit you in your own personal pursuits…

        I don’t know… I’ve been up for over thirty hours straight, and now living out of a van…

        I would say for you to not do what I did though, Richard… The closest I got to tying the knot, was twenty years ago when Wendy and I were together. That period in my life was hands down, the happiest, most loving time of my life, leading up to it, and since. (I don’t have it up as I did before on my site, where I delved deeper into it, but the photo is still up in my 20th Century photos area, titled “My Own ‘This Photograph Is My Proof’ Photo’ (in homage to Duane Michals)… But the demise of our twos’ relationship fell squarely on me, whereas even though I was more happy, and more in love than I had ever been, it wasn’t enough, I wasn’t happy persoanlly with me and my life, with what I was doing… And that led me to destroy it all, even that part that was good, in my ‘all-or-nothing’ attitude and way. There’s been nobody really since Wendy, and I’m still not happy with me and my life and doing crazy ass things like I am doing now.

        I guess, in my total lack of coherency in my current sleep deprived state, what I am trying to say is – … You know, I don’t know. It’s you, and your life… You know it, I don’t… You do what you gotta and need to do….

        I’m just gonna abruptly stop writing now

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    • JPH
      Wed, 13. July , 2016

      Wow. Paul, thank you again for very kind words.

      Not to belabor the point, but I still have to disagree though… Well, no, disagree isn’t correct… I just honestly don’t see it, see it as being anything courageous… Just simply a matter of doing what needs to be done. Courage doesn’t even factor in, or register at all with me in it all. Just something needing to be done, and doing it. I’m being dead honest… but, way more than enough talk on it either way… I do appreciate your kind way of seeing it as so.

      All the best to you

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