To all searching for destination

Posted by on Apr 14, 2015 in Letters | 2 Comments

I am not sure if it is because of age (probably) or the pressure or lack of something, but I am finding myself often contemplating about what should I invest my remaining time. What should be the thing? As you may have read few days ago in the post named Track I am having very good discussions with friend who is showing me different views on the topic. This searching for for destination is something, I am afraid I am doing too late in my life. So it must be connected to the age, even maybe in negative way.

For me it seems that I am wasting my time by the fact of asking this question and searching for answer to it, while I should be doing something. It sounds so trivial, that it may be the true answer ;-) Searching for destination is useless making the steps towards a destination may have more of it

Another way for me to find some answers is reading. And I am reading quite a lot, much more then I use to five years ago. In a book (and I am not going to name it, at least not now) I found following citation from another, very famous book. I like to share it with you:

Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?’
‘That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,’
said the Cheshire Cat.
‘I don’t much care where –’ said Alice.
‘Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,’ said the Cat.
‘So long as I get somewhere,’ Alice added as an explanation.

Lewis Carroll 1954 (1865), p. 54

It is kind of funny how one start to pick up the things which makes sense, even one had not noticed them earlier. Isn’t that indication that one – me – is  on the right path? Or is it because of the age?


  1. Iurie
    Wed, 15. April , 2015

    Hi Richard,

    Just an idea I’ve read somewhere:

    We may not be happy or content with ourselves or with the “road” we’re on. The reason for that could be that we’re living someone else’s life, not living the life we would like.

    I’ve recently watched some psychology seminars on youtube. The psychologist said that the worst word for any human being is “I must”. This word drains all the energy from your body and leaves you powerless.
    To prove it he asked a person from the auditory to press two fingers to each other and while holding them as hard as he could, think about “I want” as much as he could. He tried to pull fingers apart, but he couldn’t.
    Then he asked the person to do the same but to think “I must”. Now you can imagine what the result was…

    The same goes for our life. If we wake up every day with the thought “I must… (…go to work)” instead of “I want (to go to work)”, our energy is drained and we have no power to move forward.

    That is why it is important to find (or create!) a reason to wake up in the morning and think “I want!”

    Again, this is just an idea. It might or might not work.

    All the best!


  2. Richard Vanek
    Fri, 17. April , 2015

    You are right, I want, I like is much better then I must. The risk is not to fall in comfortable numb position when you do not care and do not want. You may be satisfied, but you will not enjoy the road nor get anywhere.
    My issue is/was what I like and want.


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